Why is the mental health system designed to usher you in their industry and presume “Everything is in your head.” From the start, throw pills at you instead of teaching you straight facts to navigate people and see through the manipulative Narcissist mother or parents who are at the very root of your “problem”.
They will not teach you important survival terms such as “Triangulation.”
Triangulation is a common tactic when mother plays puppet master, turning sibling against sibling, as the matriarch grasps for herself center of attention and further control.
Such insight is necessary to equip you to step out of the mental confines of those who have shaped and controlled you since birth. Understanding why the Narcissist does what they do, is vital to gaining self-insight and help yourself.
I have not attended a therapy session in years, although I still wrestle with Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. I attribute this condition beginning early in life due to an atmosphere one psychologist described as “walking on eggshells,” due to both parents operating on a short fuse.
I learned at an early age to listen to the rhythm of my father's footsteps when he entered the house, to gauge if he were angry, or calm since he was typically silent and unpredictable. Without warning he often explode into a rage.
During those formative years there were no counselors. Only trauma.
Since becoming an older adult, on my own, without guidance or direction from mental health professionals, I have discovered and embraced a bit of Carl Jung's philosophy. Why wasn't the name of this insightful philosopher ever once suggested during counseling sessions? Thousands of dollars! Yet I was never given the type of guidance one needs to navigate thru vicious narcissist manipulation.
The sad reality is, such people do not change. For sake of your own happiness, well-being and peace you must remove such people from your life and move on. It is NEVER about yourself. It's always about them.
Growing and maturing in an atmosphere as I have described which entirely lacked the presence of nurturing parents, a child is deprived of the ability to develop a true sense of individuality.
In earlier years of my life one brother angrily questioned while doing mental cartwheels out loud, “What kind of parent tells you, ‘Nobody can love you like family does!’ but then proceeds to instill ‘You're worthless’?”
He had not been taught by anyone it is a common tactic in manipulative relationships. “Nobody can love you as I,” to isolate. To seed doubts in the mind. To drive home lack of self-confidence. Then the manipulative parent proceeds to break you down and destroy you, to even the playing field, projecting their own nothingness and worthlessness. It is about them. It was always about them.
You? You were never taught about boundaries or offered the opportunity to discover your individuality. To become a well-adjusted, balanced individual for it to ever be about ‘You.’”
